You Are Limitless

You are capable of anything. Anything at all. I believe that with every fibre of my body. 

You are capable of achieving any goal so long as you put in the work. There are no limits aside from the ones you set. Yes, you may have to go an unconventional route to obtain your goal if you have a mental illness that affects the “normal route”. But detours are what make life interesting. 

It’s all about what we want and how much we want it. There is no reason you can’t achieve it. 

Write it out. Write down want you want – physically commit to the thought. A goal that’s not recorded is just a dream. When you write it out, it makes it that much more tangible and you will be that much more likely to invest time towards achieving it.

Everything takes time so be kind and patient with yourself. Dream big and turn those dreams into goals.

Never underestimate what you are capable of, and never tell yourself you can’t do something because the reality is you can. 

When I was first diagnosed with bipolar I thought my life was over and that I’d be limited with what I could do – come on its bipolar…but in actuality my life finally began after my diagnosis, because, come on its just bipolar. I finally got the help I needed and in turn started getting a grip on my life which made achieving my goals realistic. Things I thought I’d never do, I’ve done and there is more yet to come. 

Marriage, babies… all things that I want but terrify me because I’m not sure how my bipolar will affect me. But I’ll face my fears when the time comes because I know its worth it. I believe in me. And respectively I believe in you. Don’t put yourself in a box on a shelf, give yourself some credit and do great things, heck – do simple things. My point is just do things, for yourself and for others.

Be happy and live life in all of its glory.

– Steph

 

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A Little Self-love

It’s Friday! 

I made it through the week and I’m feeling good, now it’s time to relax and enjoy the weekend. 

I had a discussion with a friend recently, she was feeling insecure about herself and what she had to offer another person. I did my best to talk some sense into her and hopefully if you are feeling the same way I can talk some sense into you as well.

We all have so much to offer in spite of our flaws. They give us empathy and sympathy for others. They make us human. 

Everyone has flaws,  you aren’t alone in the world – being the only person to have them. And when you meet the right person they will love you in your entirety flaws and all. And likewise you will love them despite their flaws. It’s just how the cookie crumbles. It’s not a double standard. 

The important element of that equation is that you must also love yourself regardless to your flaws. It’s difficult to accept someone else’s love when you don’t even love yourself- you’ll always have that constant nagging feeling of “how could they love me because of xyz” 

But they can love you and that’s all the more reason to love yourself (it’s not the reason you should BUT it helps the cause). Flaws are not the sum of who we are. They aren’t the focal point of our life, they are just a part of it and generally we can work on our flaws to turn them into strengths. We can overcome anything. 

Embrace your flaws for the time that you have them. Ask yourself what you can learn from them and then learn from them and change your perspective. Perspective is such a powerful thing. 

Remember you are flawsome. Don’t let yourself be brought down by the sheer fact that you are human. Show yourself the compassion that you would show others who are “flawed”. Everyone is flawed but those flaws don’t take away from their value and worth – that’s including you too!

– Steph

Was it Really Worth it?

No pain. No glory. 

The things we do to look good, honestly now. My heel has been nicely butchered – the sacrifice I made to wear a cute pair of shoes. 

Mind you, I had no idea these shoes would leave my heel nice and bloody. It was a gamble I made, and I lost. New shoes are always a gamble. Rarely have I ever worn a new pair of shoes that haven’t left my heels in agonizing pain. My left heel more so than my right  (don’t ask me why) . And the other day that’s exactly what happened. 

I had that sexy “I’m in pain” walk going on – and it was only 7:30 a.m. BOY did it turn into a long day quickly. Before I left my house I had this feeling I should pack a bandaid, but did I listen to that inner voice? Nope. Should I have? Yup. What was the result? Pain. 

Always listen to that inner voice and always have bandaids packed in your purse, a lesson you’d think I’d learn. 

– Steph

It’s a New Dawn

It’s the start of a new school year, but this isn’t just any school year this is my last year! I entered into a 2 year program and I’m actually going to finish it completely! This may not seem like much to most people but I graduated high school in 2009 and I have been all over the maps with my post secondary since 2010 bouncing from one thing to the next because they seemed like a great idea… first it was a fashion designer, then it was a speech pathologist, then it was a teacher, a dental hygienist… HR business personnel and finally I’ve committed and I’m completing a diploma to be a legal assistant. My health was a huge contributing factor for my prolonged post secondary experience but you live and you learn and you meet people along the way. 

I finished last year with a 3.8 GPA. I’m not saying this to boast but to point out that having bipolar with all of it’s ups and downs … switching medication… upping my doses of medication didn’t prevent me from succeeding. If you put your mind to it anything is possible, we are our only limit.

I’m excited and nervous for this year, there is a lot to learn and a lot of work ahead of me. I’m excited for my practicum and to experience working in a law firm (I’m pretty confident I’d like to go for law and become a lawyer … but slow and steady wins the race, I want one stable career under my belt first) 

I’m not going to lie I’m worried about entering the real life adult work force, sure I’m an adult but working summer jobs and having the luxury of calling in sick if I was really feeling like I couldn’t function is very different than a stable 9-5 Monday thru Friday. In the legal field there are deadlines and as the legal assistant to the lawyers I’m expected to meet them otherwise what is my value to the firm. I’ll face that hurdle when I get there. This year is preparatory for that, I’m working with my doctors and I’m trying to better myself and that’s all I can do.

I’m so proud to say I will be graduating this year, it’s been a long time coming. But if it takes you longer than most people, so be it. Never let go of a dream and goal just because you have to work differently than most people to achieve it. 

 I hope everyone has an exciting year and challenges themselves to dream big and work hard to make it happen. 
– Steph