I’m all about self love and positive self talk, I may not be a master at it yet BUT I am a work in progress. I attribute having this type of mentality to my success with my mental health and my overall well-being. It was only a couple of years ago that I had an unhealthy distorted view of myself BUT through consistent efforts to be kinder to myself I have been able to be the happiest version of me that I’ve ever been despite all the trials I face with my mental health – let alone just being a 26-year-old going thru life.
It’s so easy to settle into negative thought patterns, to view yourself through a critical lens that eventually takes over how you view everything and everyone around you… how terribly bleak and miserable.
Be kind. Be merciful. Be patient. Love yourself for exactly who you are now and who you are becoming. Rome wasn’t built in a day and you are not going to be everything that you ever envisioned yourself to be in a day BUT that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t celebrate yourself for who you are now and keep moving forward because happiness is a journey not a destination.
The desire to progress allows us to move forward BUT how do you expect to do that if you are filled with self hatred or loathing. Toxic thoughts hold us back, they are weights and chains that we place on ourselves that inhibit our ability to move forward in our lives. How can you fuel your body, mind and soul with ugliness and expect a beautiful result? Negativity does not produce positive results.
When you love yourself, it is so much easier to love others. It’s so much easier to see the good in others and everything around you.
Be kind to yourself.
Life is hard enough as it is, you don’t need to be your own worst enemy to top it off, you should be your greatest champion and supporter, because at the end of the day, you are all you have control over. You can choose who you want to be and you can either become better or bitter.
Be kind to others.
Strong people lift other people up, I’ve said it before. That is true strength. Look for the good in others, inspire the good in others. Make a positive impact and be a positive influence. Small actions make a huge difference. Think about your day and how a complete stranger opening a door for you, telling you to have a good afternoon, smiling at you could make such a memorable impact. Kindness is powerful, and you should never underestimate its reach and power. A simple kind act could make the world of a difference in someone’s life.
We can control the kindness we show to ourselves and others. Start with yourself first. You are a priority. Don’t put yourself at the bottom of the list and focus all your efforts on others. That is not being kind to yourself. Start with yourself and let that love and kindness overflow to those around you. Don’t get it backwards. AND being kind to yourself DOES NOT make you selfish. It makes you HEALTHY.