It’s so easy to get caught up in someone – in their behaviour.
We work so hard to find peace in ourselves to create peace in ourselves. Don’t let the behaviour of someone else destroy it.
There have been times in my life where I’ve tried to normalize destructive behaviour. I’d make excuses for the individual because I wanted them to be in my life.
But at what cost?
At the cost of me. And truth be told, it has never been worth it.
I deserve more. You deserve more.
We should never have to justify someone treating us poorly. It just shouldn’t happen. It’s so easy to tell yourself that things will be different. That they didn’t really mean it.
But they did.
Otherwise they wouldn’t have to apologize a hundred times for the same hurt they’ve caused you. That’s if they even apologize.
Reality is you can’t change someone. Sure you can identify that you want to help them be better – be happier. You can see their potential. And there is nothing wrong with that. It’s good. But, you can’t change someone and their behaviour, they can only do that for themselves.
However, let them be in your life long enough and they can change you. They can destroy your inner peace. Hack away at your confidence. Get in your head. Make you the problem when you’re not. Things can get ugly when we allow someone toxic into our life.
Save yourself the suffering and walk away.
Sure, give them the opportunity to change BUT know your limit. When you have a time frame it makes walking away so much more attainable. And when you walk away try your darndest to not look back (something I’m working on). They had their chance. And now it’s time that you got yours.
You deserve a chance to be happy. A chance to have peace in your life. A chance to be treated properly by someone else.
There are billions of people in this world. You don’t need to let a single person ruin your happy. There are so many more that could add to your life instead of taking away from it.
Don’t justify destructive behaviour. Call it what it is. Identify the problem so you can solve it.
Protect yourself. Protect everything you’ve worked for and don’t let anyone tear you down.